Love is a lifestyle.
It is an action, it is not passive. It's not just a feeling. You need to do something in order to make it happen. It's not all about the flowery words and sweet talks. Love is shown in everything you do, every move and every decision you make. It is applicable in our everyday lives, it maybe at work, or school or even the simple things you do, you do it for love.
Love is selfless.
It seeks for the greater good of others at all times. It actually requires you to put the other person's desire or want above your own. No, you're not being too good, you're just being understanding, giving and selfless because you love. It is doing something to make someone happy without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.
Love forgives.
Love gives unlimited chances. Despite many failures, love chooses to forgive, for it is a choice. If you kept on throwing back the past mistakes of people just because you two are arguing, then you're doing it wrong, because love is not perfect and will sometimes forget. Love is meant to be kind and compassionate, no matter how many times we fall, we should always forgive because we are not perfect and are still working with ourselves.
Love trusts.
The word trust might be too big and heavy for some because it is earned and not just simply given but when you love, trust is a big factor and is something that is required in your relationship. When you love it includes risk and willingness to fail as we give ourselves over with vulnerability.
Love hopes.
It hopes for the better. Love stays by our side and sees us at our best when we are in the midst of our difficulties. It does not give up quickly for there is always a rainbow after the rain, that at the end of the day, everything will be fixed. It hopes and believes that no matter what the problems and struggles are, you two could move on to the next chapter of the story.
Without further explanations that would trouble your minds, here's where I found the very specific definition of what love really is...
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
1 Corinthians 13:4
The bible already defined it, the perfect and unconditional love we're dreaming of was already shown to us a long time ago, it was already given to us by Jesus when He died for us while we are still sinners. Jesus lived for us to live like Him, He loved us so that we can love like him. Love is created and is a gift from God, an important attribute to us all.
Love is patient and kind, it means we are obligated to tell people the truth with gentle and have a kind communication without judgement.
Love is not envious and boastful, it isn't suppose to be a green-eyed monster, instead, it is being grateful for whatever it is that's given,
Love is not proud, being humble lets us out of our own minds for taking the first place. it is stepping down for the people we care about.
Love does not dishonor others, we do everything for love having no intentions of hurting others, loving genuinely, is supposed to be fruitful and healthy for everyone.
Love is not self-seeking, it is caring about someone without limitations; loving without conditions. Love is not easily angered, simply choosing not to argue over the other's opinion, for love speaks governed by wisdom.
Love keeps no record of wrongs and chooses to always forgive instead of pointing fingers to who is accountable for.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, love never fails when you put God in the center of your relationship.
Love is steadfast and genuine, it always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres.
So have you found your 1 Corinthians 14:3 love?
